some weekend fun

Last year my sister and her husband bought a small cabin on Salt Spring. They live in Ottawa but come to the West Coast often to visit family, and they wanted a place to call their own out here. Plus it wasn’t a bad investment.

Buying a vacation home has never been on Greg’s and my radar. Heck, we have yet to buy our first home! I’m not sure it would be top on my list of things to buy even if we did have the money. I’m a bit of a homebody. So when my sister urged us to use this place as much as possible, I was appreciative, but I wasn’t chomping at the bit to go over there.

We saw the place for the first time in April when my sister and her family were out for a visit. It’s nicer than I thought it would be, and it has a beautiful view of the ocean. But still, we didn’t race over there. Even with the six huge boxes of Ikea furniture we were storing for them taking up space in our dining room, basement and office. There were other things that got in our way, but we could have made time.

Finally, this past weekend we decided to go. We loaded everything and everyone in the truck and took a Saturday afternoon ferry over. And it was so much FUN! Even with the loading and unloading of furniture, the putting together of furniture, the screaming kids who wouldn’t go to bed last night, the dog who tended to pace around anxiously, and the shortness of the trip (24 hours). Even with all that, I’m still looking forward to going again. We had a lovely dinner out on Friday night, a great walk this morning with the kids and the pooch, an ice cream cone this afternoon, and a couple of stints playing in the playground in Ganges.

I’m not exactly sure what changed my mind. I think it was a combination of how appealing Salt Spring is, how comfortable the cabin is, how nice it is to be away from your home and away from laundry, TV, chores and work, and also realizing it really wasn’t that much work to get over there.

So now I can’t believe how lucky we are to have this opportunity.

i’m still walking

When I signed on to do the Tour de Victoria, I had few expectations. One was that I would get a bit fitter, another was that I would, in fact, finish the race, and another was that Greg and I would ride the race together. But that was about it. I didn’t really know what I was getting into, and I didn’t know how the actual race was going to go.

Training started out a bit slow. I signed up for the ride in January, but didn’t really start any serious riding until late March. At one point I remember coming home from a short-ish ride to hear Greg advising me that I needed to step up my mileage. (Not what I wanted to hear at the time, but he had my best interests at heart.) I had visions of riding three times a week, but that didn’t happen. I procrastinated over buying a road bike and did my early training on my mountain bike. When I finally did get a road bike, my stats showed that my average speed for my rides didn’t go up by much on the road bike. I did a couple of rides with Greg and realized I was much slower than him…which started conversations about us not riding together. A few times I told myself that I could just bail if I wanted to. I wasn’t feeling too confident.

But then Greg and I got in a routine of each of us riding one weekend morning while the other took care of the kids. I got out for a couple of mid-week rides. I did step up the mileage. I started training with my friend Ann. We weren’t able to get out on many rides together because of our schedules, but we got a few in, increasing our distance gradually. My longest ride before the actual tour was 85km, and I was confident that I could have easily done another 5km.

Greg and I had a few conversations about us riding together, with me urging him to ride on his own. The tour was a mass participation ride, not a race, but we all have our goals we want to reach, and I knew I would slow Greg down significantly. He decided he’d ride with me the first hour and then go on his own. I gave the same option to Ann, but she stuck with me (despite the fact that she powered up every hill). In hindsight, I’m not sure I would have done as well if she had gone ahead, so I’m very thankful.

Yesterday was “race day”. Greg, Ann and I lined up in the chute in the 3.5 – 4.5 hour section. My average speed on my rides still wasn’t going much past 20km/h, so I wanted to finish in about 4.5 hours. I was a bit nervous because I’d never ridden with such a large group of people, but other than that I was feeling pretty good. We started out slow and thankfully the group got strung out fairly quickly. In the first few kilometres I occasionally had to brake when I didn’t want to, but I never felt nervous about crashing into anyone. It took me a while for my legs to not feel like jelly (I think because of nerves), but after about 20 minutes I felt a bit better. At about 30 minutes, Greg was just a bit ahead of me and I could tell he wanted to go, so I told him to go for it.

Soon after Greg left us, we hit Prospect Lake Road, which Ann and I had ridden once going the other way. It’s hilly, bumpy and narrow. Ann had told me if she got ahead she’d wait for me at the other side. I kept her in my sights for most of the way, but on the last two uphills I lost her. I also started to feel awful, and realized I needed to slow down a bit on the uphills or I wasn’t going to make it. As promised, Ann waited for me, and the rest of the race went much better from a physical standpoint for me. And when Ann told me what our average speed was, I realized why I hadn’t felt good — it was a good 3 km higher than normal. She kept me updated periodically for the first half of the race with the average, which remained higher than usual, but each time we discussed possibly slowing down, we decided to just keep going, knowing we could slow down later if needed.

We hit some brutal rain in Central Saanich and Sidney, but thankfully we rode through it and dried out a bit after leaving Sidney. We had a couple of brief stops along the way for food and clothing changes, and stopped at the 60 km feed station for a bio break. It had stopped raining by then but starting up again was hard because we were still wet and my legs, feet and hands were numb.

By about the 70 km mark it became clear to me that we were on track for finishing under four hours. I was shocked, as this far surpassed my expectation for 4.5 hours. I was definitely way more tired than I’d been on any of our training rides, but I felt pretty sure I had it in me to finish. With about two kilometres left Ann asked me what time it was, and we realized we had enough time to try to beat the 3:45 mark. We decided to go for out, only to be met a few seconds later by the one and only red light that they made us stop at. But we still came in sub 3:45.

I don’t remember large portions of the ride. I had to really think about what point we were at when Greg left us. I couldn’t remember where we turned off Old Island Highway. I chatted with Ann off and on, but I was on auto-pilot for a lot of the time. I remember the rain. I remember the 140km lead group passing us in Sidney, and I remember bits and pieces here and there. But I think I was pushing myself hard enough that it affected my mental awareness.

The race far exceeded my expectations. I don’t think I’ve ever felt this proud of myself from a fitness perspective. I realize that I did prepare well for this race, while at the same time keeping it realistic and not sacrificing too much of my life. Yes, I could have trained four days a week and maybe taken 15 minutes off my time. But that wasn’t my goal, nor would that have fit into my life very well. My goal was to finish and still be able to walk the next day. I did that and more. I pushed myself more than I thought I could, and performed better than I expected. And I tried (and succeeded at) something I’ve never tried before. And that feels damn awesome.

she’s gonna be a bag lady

One of Amy’s favourite things to do is find random small things and put those random small things into bigger things. Magnetic letters into plastic juice containers; blocks into bags, random baby bits into her stroller…there’s no end to entertainment for her here. So as I was doing a thorough cleaning of her room earlier in the week, I wasn’t surprised to find that everything I picked up that could hold something did, in fact, hold something. She had cars in a metal tea tin. Hair elastics inside a teeny tiny baggy inside one of her purses, along with other hair elastics loose in the same purse. Barrettes inside a metal band-aid tin. Blocks inside another purse. Fisher Price Little People inside an empty kleenex box. It was like Christmas. I never knew what I’d find when I opened something.

Then she’ll take all the “carrier” items (purses, canvas bags, tins, etc.) and she’ll put them in her shopping cart till it’s overflowing, with stuff hanging over the edges, and she’ll walk around the house, carting it around with her. She just needs a big plastic bag of tin cans for recycling and she’ll be set.

three years young

This morning when I walked into Amy’s room, I wished my half-asleep baby girl a happy birthday. Her eyes brightened, she looked around her crib a bit, and then asked softly “where’s my birthday?” I’m not sure exactly what she was asking and I didn’t ask her to clarify. It seemed like such an innocent, child-like question and I wanted to savour the moment.

We had a great day, but after spending Elliot’s birthday at home (it was a weekend), and spending Amy’s birthday mostly at work, I think next year I’ll try to take the day off. The time I spent with her today seemed too short, especially because a good portion of it was spent making dinner and icing her cake.

The day started with her sitting in her birthday chair opening her presents from Gran, Greg and I. She thoroughly enjoyed the opening process, and happily got Elliot to help her when needed. I made some cupcakes last night for her to take to daycare, and they had a small celebration for her there. Her request for dinner was macaroni. I upped the classiness of that request a bit and served tortellini. Gran, Auntie Jan, Uncle Graeme and her cousin Hugh all joined us for dinner, and they are staying to spend the day with us tomorrow.

The cake was a butterfly cake, which I’ll post a picture of soon. We have had a few chocolate cakes recently so I switched to a white cake this time. It was, I have to say, outstanding. Although the birthday girl let her father eat hers, so she wasn’t a fan. The boys both had two pieces…in fact everyone else had at least two helpings, so I don’t think I’m the only one who thought it was good.

Amy opened a couple more presents from her Aunt and then played with the “guys”, as she calls her brother and cousin. They put together her new lego house for her and she destroyed it. Par for the course.

The night ended with a bit of screaming, but I was able to get her to bed on a calmer note after a couple of books. I think she was pretty pooped. Tomorrow will be another big day spent with my sister and her family, and I think she’ll enjoy that as well.

Happy birthday, Amy-girl. I love you!

76 days to go: so much road, so little time

First is was the trip to Ottawa. And then it was some stupid test I had to study for (that’s a whole other blog post). And Elliot’s birthday was thrown in there. And a few days of snow.

Nope…there hasn’t been a whole lot of riding in my life. But there has been some, and there will be some more tomorrow. And I’ve been averaging about 17 km/h on my rides, and that’s on my mountain bike without slicks. So it’s not all doom and gloom. I haven’t been able to get much distance in, but I’m slowly getting it higher.

And today I test rode a couple of bikes, another step in the right direction. The first was the Brodie Romulus, and the second was the Brodie Ronin. There is a $350 price difference between the two, the Romulus being cheaper. The Ronin has disk brakes, an aluminum frame and upgraded components. Both bikes felt good…actually great. Before I make any decisions I want to go to at least one more shop, and I also want to have a clearer idea of what kind of bike I want. I’ve been thinking cyclo-cross all this time, but the Romulus isn’t a cyclo-cross bike. Brodie describes it as “their most versatile road bike”…a description I like. On the other hand, the Ronin has nicer parts, parts which will theoretically last longer. On the other hand, I’m not that hard on my bikes. On the other hand, disc brakes would be nice…you can see I have some thinking to do.

I’m hoping to make a decision in the next week or so. The sooner I can get on the bike that I’m actually going to be riding for the race, the better.

And now it’s time for some shut-eye. Tomorrow will be a two hour ride and I need all the help I can get.

playmobil and puzzles

I’d say Elliot had a good day. He woke up to a pile of presents from Greg and I, Gran, my brother and my sister. You know your child is getting older when the vast majority of the gifts are things they can DO rather than WEAR. He played for a bit, we had breakfast (blueberry buttermilk pancakes) and then he played more. His Gran got him a Playmobil police car with a “wee-ooo, wee-ooo” light and that was a big hit.

For lunch we had a friend and her daughter over, and they brought more presents — a book and a set of three puzzles. The puzzles were opened right away. We had a tea party per Elliot’s request, complete with crustless sandwiches (that was my request). His Gramma and Auntie arrived during lunch bringing, guess what, more presents. Several were played with, and in the mid afternoon the last of the guests arrived, his Granddad and Dooze (my step-mother) and he made short work of opening their presents. He was one happy boy.

Amy did fairly well through the day. I had explained to her ahead of time that her time would come (thankfully soon). And I think it helped a bit that her Gran brought her a little something.

For dinner we had homemade pizza, again at the birthday boy’s request. And yesterday we made a robot cake together, and it turned out great. Both in looks and taste!


I had a really fun day. I somehow managed to get out of the cooking, both for lunch and dinner, thanks to my husband. And he makes a mean tuna sandwich and a mean pizza, so we ate well. I also managed to get out of any clean-up, due to the grandparents and again my husband. I’m not sure what I did all day!

It was lovely having all the grandparents there and one of Elliot’s aunties. It means a lot to me that they all travelled from out of town to be here on Elliot’s day.

And Elliot never left the house, which is one of his definitions of a good day. I really think he enjoyed himself.

five years in

Elliot turns five tomorrow. Tomorrow (or soon) I’ll post about the actual festivities and the very cool robot cake we made. For now, since I blog so much less about the kids these days, I want to capture a bit of what Elliot is like at four and 364 days.

He’s a different kid than he was two years ago. I used to feel like we had to walk on eggshells around him, waiting for the next bomb to go off. There are still bombs, but they are much less frequent and the aftermath isn’t nearly as traumatizing for me. I see him trying to gain control, using tools like drinking some water or holding on to his bopp. And I see myself walking towards him instead of storming away from him in anger. Often in the middle of his tears he’ll melt into my arms in a hug. And I can feel him physically calming down. And again, all this happens so much less frequently.

He’s still got his quirks. He refuses to wear anything but sweatpants or fleece pants, and shirts randomly seem be dropped and added to his small repertoire with no rhyme or reason (that I can figure out, anyway). But when there are “no pants that he likes” in his pants drawer I no longer anticipate a complete meltdown. Sometimes in these situations he’ll actually wear a pair of pants he doesn’t like, and other times we’ll grab something dirty from the laundry. I guess I’ve changed a bit, too.

A few weeks ago he started swimming lessons through daycare — the first time he’s done them on his own. A year ago I think it would have been a nightmare. Now, he’s loving them and apparently tries everything the instructor asks him to. I feel proud of him and I feel proud of Greg and I for trusting our gut and knowing when to push and when to let him be. We don’t always get it right, but I love that we pay attention to the boy that is Elliot.

He is a patient older brother, considering the physical abuse he gets from his sister. He loves teaching her things and his empathy when she’s feeling sad or has hurt herself is astounding. At the same time, he’s quick to tell her to “get out of my room, NOW”. I have witnessed a couple of moments recently where they’ve been doing something fun together that requires physical contact (like sitting in a sled together) and the look of pure joy on their faces is almost tear-enducing for me. I don’t know what their future holds in terms of their relationship, but I’m happy with the connection they have right now. Even with the abuse.

He makes us laugh almost daily. He has funny voices that he does and some of the phrases that come out of his mouth are priceless. Like this afternoon when he, Amy and Gran were playing in his room. After about 20 minutes he came downstairs by himself and announced to me “I’m done. Gran’s in charge now.”

He’s still a bear in the mornings and takes a good 20 minutes to wake up. The mornings go much better if he wakes up on his own and comes out of his room on his own time. Compare that to his sister who turns “on” in a matter of seconds. He has an amazing ability to know when he needs alone time, and will play quite happily in his room during these times.

My girlfriend’s daughter will be starting university in September of this year, the same time that Elliot is starting kindergarten. It makes me very aware of how fast the time flies, and how soon the preschool years will seem like ancient history. But that’s okay, because things just keep getting better as Elliot grows, explores and experiences the world.

I love him to bits and I hope he has a wonderful day tomorrow.

Ottawa 2011: happy to be on solid ground

We’re home. Our return trip was less gruelling than I thought it would be. And I learned a valuable lesson. You CAN get yourself on an earlier connecting flight without forking over cash. But only if you ask about this BEFORE your baggage goes on the conveyer belt. We had a four hour layover in Vancouver that I was not looking forward to (from 11:00 pm to 3:00 am Ottawa time). I was told by a seasoned traveller (no names mentioned) that changing our tickets would cost us $100 each ticket, so we weren’t going to bother. But when we checked in to the ticket desk in Ottawa I thought I’d ask the ticket agent just in case. Unfortunately my timing was TERRIBLE. I asked her about 30 seconds after our first bag had gone on the conveyer belt. Her response was, as she looked in the direction the bag had just gone, “well, you could have…”.

The ticket agent was very apologetic. She hadn’t noticed the long layover. And it turned out there were seats available on a flight that left two hours earlier. Grrrr. I was pretty mad at myself. I should have asked as soon as we walked up to the desk. Lesson learned.

The plane we were on from Ottawa to Vancouver had three seats on either side of the aisle. After a bit of debate we decided to put Greg and the kids in one row and then have me in the aisle seat next to them. I could have been flying without kids. I helped them pee a couple of times and chatted with Elliot for a bit, but other than that I did no childcare. I watched a movie and four episodes of Rookie Blue. I’ve never had a flight go by so fast, except for the 45 minutes of, as the pilot put it, “light chop” as we landed. If that was light chop I’d hate to see heavy chop. I feared for my life as my four-year-old yelled out “WHEEEE” repeatedly. He thought it was awesome.

We landed safely and I breathed a sigh of relief. Amy had fallen asleep about half way through the flight and had remained asleep through all the bumping. She remained asleep through the layover in Vancouver and didn’t wake up until we landed in Victoria. At which point, after sleeping for about eight hours, was feeling quite refreshed and I began panicking that she wouldn’t fall asleep when we got home. She did, but was up a lot and then up for the day at 6:30. She is currently passed out on the couch.

Elliot, on the other hand, stayed wide awake until we got in the car. So he was up until 3:30 in the morning. And slept for about six hours. And he is not asleep on the couch. Go figure.

We were warned that the flight from Vancouver to Victoria would also be bumpy (those of you who were in Victoria yesterday will recall how windy it was throughout the day). It wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be, but the landing was pretty freaky. And right before we landed I recalled my sister’s story of landing in Victoria last year and having the pilot abort the landing at the last minute because of wind and then tell everyone he was going to “have another go”. I’m not sure I would have survived that. But survive we did.

During our last three days in Ottawa we had a great visit to the Children’s Museum, went for a swim at a local pool, and on Saturday spent an awesome three hours tobogganing at a local park.

It was a fantastic visit, and I think we’ll continue our annual Winterlude visits to Ottawa as long as we can — at some point school might get in the way.

Now back to real life.

Ottawa 2011: too busy to blog

This not having any kids who nap gig means there is not a lot of down time for blogging. And during this trip I finally introduced myself to Angry Birds. Last night I spent 90 minutes playing it instead of blogging. But I’m here now.

We had a short but good trip to visit my friend in Montreal. We came across a bit of snow both ways in the drive but thankfully it was at the tail end of the trip both times.

Wednesday night my sister treated me to a ticket to Cats. I’d seen it once before in Victoria but this time our seats were much better. It was absolutely fabulous.

Thursday we spent a lot of the day at home, but Greg, Amy and I got out for a skate and all four Foxes spent about an hour tobogganing in the late afternoon.

Today Greg and I each got out for an individual skate in the morning and this afternoon we took the kids to the Canadian Museum of Nature. Amy and I also got out for a walk and a play at my nephew’s school. Amy has discovered the joy of going down plastic slides in snow pants. One goes fast and far.

We’ve been eating like royalty — my brother-in-law is a fabulous cook and my sister makes yummy bread and desserts. Pretty sure I’ll be returning to Victoria heavier. We have also been having beautiful weather — sunny and crisp, but not too crisp.

Three more days…then back to the real world.

Ottawa 2011: snow play

Yesterday we had a leisurely morning and then headed out to a winter festival at a local park. There was hockey, food, kids’ games and horse-drawn sleigh rides. And a small hill for tobogganing. Which is where we spent most of our time. Elliot loves being on a sled that is going downhill. Amy wasn’t quite as enthused, but she did do a couple of runs.

We spent the rest of the day indoors. Or the Fox family did. Greg had a short nap and I struggled to stay awake to make sure the kids didn’t kill each other.

This morning we tried to head out early to the ice slides. We had gone last year and it had been PACKED. We ended up getting there about 45 minutes after it opened and it was fine. The ice slides are toboggan runs that have been flooded and then have iced over. They are slick, fast and a whole lot of fun. Again, Elliot was all over it and Amy was a bit wary. But she ended up going down three slides.

Then it was back to the house for some food, train play and a bit of kid refereeing. In the late afternoon we went for our first skate on the canal. The ice was fairly choppy but it was still good to get out. Greg towed Elliot behind him in a sled and Amy was in the stroller. She fell asleep (which would be why she’s still awake now, at 9:30).

Tomorrow we are off to Montreal to visit a friend from university for a night. I haven’t seen her for four years so it’ll be nice to catch up.