Ottawa 2010: The Last Few Days

I thought I’d blog more often while we were here, but I haven’t really felt like it. Too much time spent playing in the snow, eating and drinking wine.

On Tuesday we went to the Children’s Museum. Elliot and I went there when we were here in October, and he enjoyed it even more this time around with Hugh as his tour guide. Amy also had a good time — her favourites being climbing in the Pakistani bus and an Austin mini, accompanied by many orders of “Mama, zsit!” (that’s not a typo).

On Wednesday Jan, Hugh, Amy and I went swimming. Elliot and Greg stayed at home as Elliot didn’t feel like going out. There was a small slide in the toddler pool and it didn’t take long for Amy to get the hang of it.

Wednesday afternoon the Verges arrived and we had a wild 24 hours with five kids in the house. On Thursday we visited the ice slides in Gatineau but as Greg mentioned in his post, it was a bit of a let down. Too many people, most of them misbehaving kids. I managed to go down one slide and it was fun, but not worth the wait.

This morning Greg, Amy and I had a short skate (and nap) on the canal, and we’ve had a pretty quiet day apart from that. I think we’re going to bundle up the kids and take them tobogganing this afternoon.

Amy needs some love…gotta go.

Ottawa 2010: The Canal

Yesterday afternoon we headed out to the Rideau Canal for a skate. Earlier in the day Greg and I went out to either rent skates or buy a secondhand pair. Greg walked out of the store with nothing and I walked out with a brand new pair of figure skates. Not exactly what I’d intended but they were on sale and cheaper to buy than rent for a week. And they are the most comfortable pair of skates I’ve ever put on.

It was a beautiful skate — it was sunny and about -5, so perfectly reasonable winter weather. We took Amy in the stroller and Elliot on the toboggan and despite a few tears, I think everyone had fun. Greg borrowed my brother-in-laws skate’s and will likely rent a pair later in the week.

I appreciated the fact that there were no crowds, as I’m pretty shaky on skates these days. It’s been a long time.

Ottawa 2010: The Plane

Years from now when Greg and I are traveling the world, I hope we never forget to appreciate how easy it is to travel without young children. Traveling with an almost four-year-old is okay. Traveling with an almost two-year-old is a lot of work. We left for Ottawa on Sunday at about 10 am Victoria time and arrived approximately 12 hours later. Amy woke up at about 7 am that morning and didn’t sleep until we arrived. She was awake for fifteen hours straight — her longest stretch ever. And then she slept for all of six hours that first night. Needless to say, everyone was a little tired yesterday.

The trip really wasn’t that bad, it’s just hard to entertain a little person who has the attention span of (surprisingly enough) a two-year-old when you’re in a confined space. The biggest hit were the iPod ear buds and the package of wipes. I’m glad I didn’t pack any toys for her. I knew they’d go ignored. We were blessed with no one sitting in front of me, so we didn’t have to worry when she played with the tray and whacked the touch screen on the seat ahead of me. Going home might be different. I was surprised that she didn’t sleep, though. Our flight home leaves a lot later and I’m hoping she’ll sleep a bit.

Elliot watched TV almost the whole time and was pretty low maintenance. And the three hour stopover in Vancouver went by fairly quickly. So like I said it really wasn’t bad…just tiring and we had to be “on” the whole time.

We appear to have adjusted to the time zone quickly, as is usual for the Fox family. Amy had a huge sleep last night and caught up on some of her deficit. I napped yesterday and was still able to fall asleep last night so I must have needed it.

We’re here for a week, and more posts will follow.

cousins

When I was younger I wanted four kids. Things didn’t turn out quite as I planned (not to mention I hadn’t yet experienced motherhood when I wanted four), and Greg and I are stopping at two. I’m a bit sad that Elliot and Amy won’t have more siblings, but what they do have is cousins. Both my parents are only children, so I don’t have any cousins or aunts and uncles. And while I loved (and still love) having two brothers and a sister, there are times when I’ve missed having an “extended” family.

Our kids have four cousins — three boys and one girl. One of my nephews is in his teens, but the other three range in age from two months to five years. Elliot has spent the most time with Hugh, my sister’s son, who is fifteen months older than Elliot. Over the last six months I have noticed a real relationship developing between them, even though they only see each other three or four times a year. Elliot takes a while to warm up to other kids, even kids he knows, but as soon as he and Hugh see each other, they connect. I’m not sure where this comes from — do they sense the connection between my sister and I? Or did we just get lucky and they are, at least for now, compatible?

Then this weekend we met up with my brother, sister-in-law and their two kids, Rosie and Oliver. Rosie and Elliot are nine days apart in age, and up until this past weekend they haven’t really interacted a whole lot. They see each other about once a year, and I think up until now they’ve just been too young to really play together. But this visit was totally different. They were running around the house, giggling with each other, having conversations and generally having a great time.

I am thoroughly loving this. Family is so important to me, and to see these cousins together is heartwarming. Not to mention the relationships I’m building with my niece and nephews. It’s like icing on the cake. And I look forward to seeing how the youngest cousins, Amy and Oliver, will fit into the mix.

the facebook challenge

I don’t do Facebook. As you can see from this post, two years ago I couldn’t articulate why. I’ve thought about it a lot since then, and I don’t like Facebook because I believe it gives people an easy mechanism to act inappropriately. Specifically, abusing a relationship by having an inappropriate online relationship with someone else. Having been stung by this in the past, I’m a bit sensitive about it. But the internet in general gives people that ability, not Facebook specifically. So it’s not a very good argument.

It’s gotten so that I’m almost proud of the fact that I don’t have a Facebook account…that I’ve barely even seen what it looks like. Which is ridiculous because what is there to be proud of? There are things I should be proud of in my life and being anti-Facebook is NOT one of them.

So…and I say this with great hesitation…I’m considering it. I’ve had two kicks in the pants over the past 24 hours that have got me into this state. First, my dear friend K is torturing me by telling me she’s been posting every day on Facebook recently (I probably don’t even have the lingo right…do you “post” on Facebook?). Then there’s my dear friend B who tells me a tear-jerker story about how she reconnected with an old neighbour through Facebook — someone who was very near and dear to her heart.

With that in mind, I have a plan. If I can get ten comments on this post each telling me a story about how Facebook has affected you positively, I’ll at least take a good look over someone’s shoulder and see what I’m missing. I’m not committing to anything, I’m just saying I’ll seriously consider it. And I’m not talking about reconnecting with some long-lost third cousin, exchanging three messages with them and promptly forgetting about them again. I want some solid stuff here.

And you can post more than one comment. Because I know at least one of you has two stories to share.

retrospective

Last day of NaBloPoMo. I went through my posts for this past month trying to find my favourite, and I don’t have one. I think I did a “better” job last year, but I had more going on. I can say that from a life perspective, I’m much happier this November than I was last November. I’m happily ensconced in my new home, my kids are sleeping through the night, I don’t have a ton of packing/unpacking awaiting me (although there is still some unpacking to do…one year later), and I’m enjoying being back at work. Unfortunately it wasn’t the best November for Greg, but hopefully December will be better for him.

If I do this again next year I will either use a theme to guide me, or post on the family site, as it seems I have little trouble finding something to write about when it comes to Elliot and Amy. The other thought I had was posting a picture every day (old or new) and writing about the picture.

We’ll see. For now, I’m signing off.

something exciting happened today!

I have my sister-in-law to thank for providing some content for today’s post. She gave birth to a baby boy at 5:30 this evening. She sent an email out at 3:30 pm saying things had started but they were still “light and slow”. Two hours later, baby arrived. Wow.

No name yet, but his sister didn’t get named until a week after her birth, so I’m not surprised.

So that brings the tally of cousins up to four boys and two girls. I’m pretty sure that’s it for everybody, so it looks like Amy and Rosie will be outnumbered forever.

Congratulations, Bill and Anna!

sue crocker

I baked today. Three times. I made pancakes for breakfast, cookies with Elliot right before lunch and cornmeal muffins with our soup for dinner.

My mother was a baker, and we always had something homemade and sweet in the house. I don’t remember ever seeing a box of store-bought cookies in our pantry. She taught me to bake early (I don’t remember learning) and as I got older I did more and more. Never anything fancy, just cookies, muffins and cakes. I continued baking for my first couple of years of university, but it came to a halt as I got busier with school. And then I just got out of practice and it became a chore.

So there hasn’t been a lot of baking happening over the years, and there’s been many a store-bought cookie crossing the treshold of our house. But I’ve recently started again. Partly because Elliot can now help me and it’s something we can do together, and partly because I don’t want to deprive my children (or myself!) of sweets — and if I can make them then I can control what goes into them.

This year for the first time since I lived at home I’m planning on doing some Christmas baking. I’m looking forward to having the house smell good, having Elliot help me with both the making and the decorating, and having goodies in the freezer I can pull out when I get the craving.

the week has ended

Just got home from Greg’s work Christmas party — came home alone as he wanted to stay a bit longer. Kind of weird going to a party for an office that is shutting down. I had a good time, but I was ready to leave. I’m just not a small talk in big group kind of person. It energizes some people ,but it exhausts me.

Anyway, I’m glad to be home, glad to be in my pajamas, soon to be crawling into bed.

traditions of the season

Continuing with my Christmas theme from yesterday…one of the things I loved about Christmas as a child were the traditions my family shared. When we were very young my dad would take all four kids out for a drive to look for Santa. We’d invariably see an airplane and he’d tell us it was Rudolph. Meanwhile, back at home, my mum would be scrambling to get last minute wrapping done.

Every Christmas Eve we’d have a beef fondue. Mum would make four or five different sauces, we’d heat up the oil and we’d dip our beef in. As I recall, that’s all we had for dinner. No veggies, no salad, just meat. I’m sure there was something else, but all I remember is the meat.

On Christmas Eve we’d go to bed with just a few presents under the tree, and when Christmas morning rolled around we were always greeted with a pretty large increase in the number of presents. Mum continued this well after the Santa-believing age, and I loved it.

Our stockings would be stuffed to overflowing, and the extra presents would be on the hearth of the fireplace. There was always a box of sugar cereal for each of us. We never had it normally, so it was a real treat. And Mum knew all our favourites. Corn Pops were mine.

We were allowed to open our stockings and one present of our choice before breakfast. And my parents were pretty lax about how early we got up. I don’t think 6:00 was unheard of. Their bedroom was next to the living room, and I imagine they woke up to their kids squealing with delight as we turned on the living room lights.

One particularly good memory I have is of waking up really early on Christmas morning and not being able to get back to sleep because I was so excited. My sister, who is six years older than me, was always the same way, even into her late teens. I saw her light on across the hall and I climbed into bed with her. We lay there reading together until it was time to get up. I remember being really warm, snuggled up against her.

We didn’t have any extended family other than grandparents, so Christmas dinner was always at our house. We occasionally had people over, but mostly I remember it just being the six of us and my maternal grandparents. We always had Christmas crackers at the table, and we always wore the hats.

It has been hard for me to transition into an “adult” Christmas. Over the years as my siblings have got together less and less I’ve had to struggle with what Christmas looks like for me. It has become a little easier now that I have kids, and a new focus, however I put pressure on myself to create our own family traditions. I have to stop trying so hard. I don’t think you “create” traditions. I think they evolve over time.

Regardless of how we spend each Christmas, I do hope that Elliot and Amy have as fond memories of their childhood Christmases as I do.